I was reminded of this when reading a reflection by Patricia Raymond MD entitled "Embrace your Tiger". Pat is a Doc who is also a motivational speaker whose goal is to "resuscitate the joy in medicine" - which can be sadly missing in these technologically driven times. It's all about facing up to confrontation and finding out that you can be more of a tiger than you really thought you could. Here are some of Pat's suggestions:
- Sit down with your “opponent” in a quiet space.
- Tell them what you perceive.
- List the facts that led to this conclusion.
- Honestly ask to be shown where you are wrong.
Our feelings are the "signposts" that help us to identify the path we should follow. But although we should always take our feelings into account, in the end we should be making conscious, informed decisions on how we should act and not rely on just feelings.
Taking the emotion out of confrontation makes it into a discussion where both sides are winners - and if someone gets "upset" that really isn't your problem!
So with Easter now here and change happening, as Pat suggests, it might be your time to let your Tiger out of the cage! Happy Easter.